so what do you say to a friend who just doesn't know what to say themselves, isn't sure what they are feeling, or even really doesn't know who they are? words don't really work. at least not the ones that come from my brain. only HolySpirit inspiration can hold a candle to such serious matters. no amount of mental preparation can cover the need!
... and so we sit, surely muttering silent-esque prayers, and just trying to hear, love, and grasp for understanding/s. maybe making an appearance, taking the time, & offering a sincere prescence is all that's needed/can be offered at the moment. that, and buckets of intercessory prayers!?